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       RELATIONSHIP VIRUSES
I heard my heart say a long time ago “I love her but I can not stop cheating on her”, and I am beginning to see this situation as a puzzle that needs to be solved.
    When one is attracted to the opposite sex, and a sweet ,soft loving relationship is given birth to, one expects both individuals to respect the right, feelings of each other and also the terms that governs their relationship which are BELIEVE,LOVE,UNDERSTANDING,TRUTH and TRUST.
Refraining yourself and heart from those things that can lure you into making a mistake of your life – (the mistakes that you wish were never made) could be a great way of keeping a good relationship.
    As one decides to accept the responsibilities of a relationship, he or she should also be ready to accept its deficiencies too. 
You are supposed to know that your lover is your lover and that the health and well being of his HEART, EMOTION and FEELINGS is your sole responsibility and welfare.
By accepting the deficiencies of a RELATIONSHIP I mean appreciating those things that a successful relationships LACK.
This relationship deficiency is what I call RELATIONSHIP IMMUNE VIRUS (RIV) and they are synonymous to the HUMAN IMMUNE VIRUS (HIV) because they cause the same damage that HIV causes to the human body and when fully developed results to what I call RELATIONSHIP ACQUIRED IMMUNE DEFICIENCY SYNDROME (RAIDS), its effect is devastating to relationships since it always result to FIRST DEGREE HEARTBREAK.
These are divided into two classes
• HARMFUL CALLS
• EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCE ON OTHERS
By HARMFUL CALLS I mean not minding who calls you and who you call, this is one of the greatest problem youngest “I am the social type” people make. They want to give their number to any body that comes their way and they want to answer all calls too maybe to be the “HOTTEST LINE CALLER”.
To me unhealthy calls are to a relationship what POISON is to the body. Fine there is nothing wrong with answering or making calls but the big question is “do you respect your lover with your calls”, how does your lover feel when you are on the phone? If he or she is opportune to listen to your conversation, will he or she still trust you, if he or she is to be the one paying so much attention to his calls not minding the consequences of his or her calls, will you feel happy? Will you feel happy when you call him or her in the late hours of the night just to say “honey I just want to say good night and sweet dreams, please do know that I love you” but online to be unable to pass your message across to him or her because he or she has been on phone for over an thirty minutes with someone else (not business issues).
You might love him or her or see nothing wrong with the calls that you make but what will never know is the effect of this calls to his or her heart.  Remember that relationships dies when there is no trust and every one needs some one that they can trust and whom they can love alone but both since true love will always find its way to any heart where trust exists.
By being intimate with others I do not mean having sex with others but this could be a driving force to cheating on your partner.
It is surprising and annoying to know that your lover’s friends know more about your lover and your relationship than you do. Each time you have a problem, he or she is always the first to know, he or she gives solution to your different emotional and relationship problem whereas you only get to know what is going wrong in your relationship when the heat is on. When you try to look into the matter he or she says that he or she is JUST A FRIEND.
  What you should know is that such relationships with others are harmful just the same way chocolate and sugar is to your teeth and body. Its effects take time to manifest and when it does, believe me it is disaster.
     What you do not know is the great bad feelings that your lover feels when you do these things. You and I know too that the above listed things are not healthy to any relationship and will never be. You know that it hurts to know that the one that says “I love you is the same person that hurts you” and it’s also important to know that “betrayer is the saddest pain of love”.
If you see nothing wrong with these relationship killers, please do make out time for yourself to answer this question- if he or she is the one doing these things to me his or her supposed lover, friend and family? , will I feel better or happier. The answer is definitely NO…
just the same way one feels miserable and heartbroken when he or she tests positive to HUMAN IMMUNE VIRUS (HIV) is the same way he or she feels when his or her relationship test positive to FUTURE BREAKUP (FB) or POSSIBLE BREAKUP (PB).
     I will like to say that paying so much attention, time, emotional energy to others is depriving your lover the essential ingredient he or she needs to grow in love with you and when this is done, believe me or not you are definitely CHEATING on your lover.
I see it as as a betrayal of trust and love.